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A 20-year-old man from Crescent City, California, has pleaded guilty to drugging and raping his […]

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II Poetry Contest: Nirbhaya

by To every girl who has faced physical and sexual violence like rapes

Do you remember
that night of December
when I shouted and cried in pain
but all my efforts went in vain…
You molested me and played me like a toy
and did all this just for your joy….
Didn’t the rakhis on your wrists remind…
That you had sisters at home and still you were so unkind…
In order to prove how manly you were
you have put a spot of shame on the face of every individual….
Was being a girl was the fault I did?
That in the moving bus I was assaulted…
And that act was such a shame
that it defamed every man’s name…
And now every girl questions her security needs
As in the faces of humans there are so many beasts….

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II Poetry Contest: Second Place

by Rahmat, a 300lvl student of Adult Education

I’m a woman, in pride and honour I glow
In power and motivation I flow
In love and affection I drown for the prince of my heart
A golden heart he had with a charming apparition
His display of humanity and integrity gave more hope of security to my soul.
The luckiest woman I ever thought I was
The king of my heart I got married to and in his castle of love, i lived
The beast of my heart he became after a hard hit on my face
A mistake he confessed it was
My generous heart could not hold a brief of forgiveness
In his stronghold i lived till my innocent soul survived a coma after another domestic abuse
I thought he could be forgiven after a whole lots of plead and care till I realized that I’ve been paralysed
I screamed to voice out but his threat held me back
Oh my pride, my integrity, my honour and all vanished!
My dignity wept at the present of His apparition as his threat keep warning me never to voice out
I was left with no choice to as I crave to be the woman I used to be
My voice was heard at the hospital bed and my freedom untied
And then I became the woman I used to be

via Inspirational Woman Interview: Esther Dingemans — Inspirational Women Series

Esther Dingemans is the director of the Dr. Denis Mukwege Foundation, based in the Netherlands, with a branch in Switzerland. Together with world renowned activist Denis Mukwege, the organization puts rape as a weapon of war and conflict related sexual violence on the international agenda and lobbies for scaling up support for survivors. Previously, Esther […]

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via Abused… Remember, You Are Not Crazy — The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel

Abused… with some memories a little hazy? Well rest assured… remember, you are not crazy. For abusers twist truth… and pound you with repeated lies… as a way to control and manipulate… while the real truth is disguised. And after years go by… and the web of lies has grown… sometimes it takes others to […]

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Via HuffPost Women: What It’s Like To Get An Illegal Abortion, From 4 Women Who Know Firsthand

I believe that abortion will be always a polemic subject.  Each person has their own reasons and we should respect their choice.

By Huffington Post

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I Am Not a Stereotype by Deborah Palmer.

I am not a Stereotype

Stereotypes Hurt.  No More Labels!!

Women of all colors, races, religions ethnic groups and nationalities face double jeopardy. 

I will not be defined by the narrow conventions of your mangled mind.

Me and Patti LaBelle got a new attitude.

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I will not be typecast by the slant of my eyes, the color of my skin or country of origin.

I am a Woman of faith of dignity who demands and commands respect.

I refuse to suffer indignities of your racist sexist perversions.

I follow the laws of God as dictated by my belief system whatever it may be.

I am not an exotic playtoy or life size Barbie doll existing only to gratify, satisfy or fulfill your twisted sadistic carnal predilections.

I am not the one and today is not your day.

I will not be afraid and will not back down.

I am not a victim.

I am more than a survivor.

I am defiant.

You do not have license to ill.

My height, weight, shape do not delineate me as a loose woman or a hot number.

I am not your Ethiopian Chocolate Fantasy or submissive Asian delight found in the back covers of men’s magazines.

I am not your Indian Maiden with feathers in her hair or a sari wrapped around her waist.

If I’m a Lesbian nothing between your legs will make me straight and certainly does not impress me.

Whatever fever you got, be it Jungle Fever, Yellow Fever, Red Fever, Hot Spicy Latina Fever, I’m about to throw cold water all over it and knock you out cold. Get over yourself. You’re not all that and a bag of chips.

I choose who, when, where and if I will lay my body down.

I am the Goddess and only the worthy may gain access to the Temple. As Women we are called to maintain order in the Universe. Ladies ~ Realize your calling.

Ladies sexual abuse, workplace bullying and sexual harassment is the Elephant in the Room that everybody sees but fails to acknowledge its presence. Instead we step lightly around him hoping he will go away of his accord. Do not remain silent.

Speak up. Speak out.

 

 

(ReBlog) Surviving Sexual Assault: How I Get Through It — EverythingShaquana.com

I remember this time when I was about 12 years old, while at the pool, and a boy, who was more like a young man, was dunking me in the water. I remember it was all fun and games for the first few dunks. It was around the third or fourth dunk that things got […]

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Stalking should be taken seriously

 

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image source: dove inc

 

If you are in immediate danger, please call 911

January is National Stalking Awareness Month and it is fundamental to alert the society that stalking should be taken seriously. Classifying as a childish behavior and ignoring the signs of being stalked are very common behaviors in our society, however, a lot of cases can quickly escalate and the victim can end up abused and/or dead.

According to the Stalking National Center, about 7.5 millon people are stalked in one year in United States.

  • 61% of this number are female victims are stalked by a current or former intimate partner.
  • 76% of intimate partner femicide* victims have been stalked by their intimate partner.
  • 67% had been physically abused by their intimate partner.
  • 89% of femicide victims who had been physically assaulted had also been stalked in the 12 months before their murder.
  • 79% of abused femicide victims reported being stalked during the same period that they were abused.
  • 54% of femicide victims reported stalking to police before they were killed by their stalkers.

 

Unfortunately, threatening, attacking, assaulting and killing are situations suffered by the victims. Stalkers can be unpredictable and dangerous. In addition, their behaviors do not follow a partner; they can start an indirect communication by texting and suddenly be at the victim’s doorstep.

So, if you are a victim suffering from being stalked, what should you do about it?

 

Every victim should have a safety plan. You can create one in your own or just follow the Stalking Safety Plan  created by trained professionals from the National Center for Victims of Crime .

The guide has several safety tips such as:

  • Have a phone nearby at all times, preferably one to which the stalker has never had access.  Memorize emergency numbers, and make sure that 911 and helpful family or friends are on speed dial.
  • Vary routines, including changing routes to work, school, the grocery store, and other places regularly frequented.
  • Do not interact with the person stalking or harassing you. Responding to stalker’s actions may reinforce their behavior.

Click here to read the complete guide:

Being well-informed and prepared will keep you safer.

Help us to raise awareness about stalking. It is real and must be taken seriously. If you were stalked and would like to share your story with us. Please send an e-mail to weareallthesameproject@gmail.com.

 

*femicide definition by Dictionary.com

1. the act of killing a woman, as by domestic partner 

or a member of a criminal enterprise

2. massacre of women and girls

#wearethesame Urging to place women’s empowerment

 

We Are All The Same Project ideas started with my sketchbook, #weareathesame, that I made for The Sketchbook Project organized by the Brooklyn Art Library.

#weareallthesame is a piece that tries to translate the pain and the blood of every single woman who is suffering from sexual exploitation and domestic violence. Every person who touches this book is literally going to be marked. I hope that attention-getting effect pushes each individual to speak out about these issues.

I witnessed domestic violence in my family, and it is very challenging to talk about it. The victims and the aggressors of my life were people that I love and I loved (passed away). In summary, the internal mental and emotional scars are going to be carried with me for my entire life; these memories are translated to people around me thru my speech and anxiety. Speaking out thru art and media is fighting against domestic violence and human trafficking.** It is also an urging to place gender equality and women’s empowerment paramount within our society.

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Every time that I meet my friends from college, they remind me how crazy I was for reporting illegal transsexual prostitution, writing about drug trafficking, and dreaming about covering national and international wars. The dream never happened. I believe that my choices were for the best in order to heal various personal issues.

However, an outstanding opportunity to be working for the research department of Half the Sky a few years ago made my urge of speaking out about society issues awaken even further. Working for only six months, I had the opportunity to speak with people from different cultures and classes who were trafficked, who suffered all kinds of abuse at home and on the street. So many stories were told to me, and so deeply moved me, that I decided to do my own research after I finished that project. My friends from college, and I, applied for a different fund in Brazil to report stories of women that were forced into slavery in the sex tourism industry, girls who were trafficked into Spain and many more sad stories of kids who are sexually abused by their parents by the age of 5.

Shocked, by how some people can be so cruel, combined with my own experiences of witnessing domestic violence, made me create this project to speak up about the abuses, but those negative actions also promoted the gender equality and women’s empowerment I am driven to make a reality now! My personal goal is to study deeply how race, sexual inequality, history, women’s behaviors and combined projects are the sequential result of an abusive society.

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Brazil’s Problem: Violence Against Women — Girls’ Globe

I am Brazilian and the facts listed below break my heart.

  • According to the UN, Brazil has the 5th highest index of femicides in the world.
  • According to PRI, “the number of women killed in homicides in Brazil keeps on increasing”
  • Also according to PRI, this number is higher among black women, which highlights racial discrimination issues that also plague Brazil.
  • According to the Mapa da Violência 2015 (“Map of Violence 2015”), the main source of data and information on the topic in the country, there are 13 femicides every day in Brazil.

Read the complete article below.

The movement #NiUnaMenos started in Argentina, but its message and impact has crossed the borders of the country and is now the voice of all Latin America protesting violence against women. On November 25th, the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women established by the United Nations, women marched in Rio de Janeiro, São […]

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